Do You Allow New Friends Into Your Life? #NaBloPoMo

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How do you feel about new people jumping into your life? Do you love to meet new people? Are you more private? Do you struggle making friends? Do you prefer your solitude? Are you one of the people who do the jumping? Or do you just want all the juicy details and then leave the new neighbor to the wolves?

I'm the personality type where I thrive and need social interaction! Yet, I'm also quite shy believe it or not! I was so shy as a kid that I would often hide behind my mom's legs and if someone talked to me, I'd immediately start to cry. I just didn't know how to handle the situation! Yet at the same time; I desperately need the human interaction.

So there's my problem. I need human interaction, but I struggle coming out of my shell to begin the relationship! I don't have much chance to be the "gossip" as I'm too terrified to "chat it up" with people. Haha! So Yes! I'm one where I actually NEED people to jump into my life! Due to the Husband joining the Army, we moved around a lot. I really struggled with all the new adjustments of a new country, new culture (and I'm just talking about the army culture, let alone the German culture), new language and doing it all on my own because the Husband was deployed right after I arrived in Germany with our two toddler boys!

I am ever grateful for those friends and neighbors who jumped right into my life and helped me learn the ropes! They turned my time in Germany into what could have been a very difficult and frustrating time; into one of the most cherished times in my life!

Then I had to move again! This time to Kansas! Oh I can't tell you how terrified I was to make the next move! What if the people there weren't as nice? Weren't as friendly, and weren't as…well….assertive to aggressive in welcoming me? Thankfully I was able to find a few amazing people that gladly jumped right into my life and helped me feel welcome in our new home! I miss them dearly! Two of which happened to live directly across the street from me! This was the first time I had actual neighbors for friends since getting married! Oh, what a wonderful difference it made!

And then we had to move yet again! This time to Idaho. Could I possibly be lucky yet a third time? Honestly I couldn't have asked for a better neighborhood in welcoming us! I have some truly amazing people living around me that have arose to the challenge and jumped right into my life! And I struggle when some of them have to move; or just when they go on extended vacations. Haha! They become such an important part of my life, it's like a part of me leaves with them!

I know many people prefer to be left alone. I know many people that would find the constant attempts of neighbors welcoming and inviting to be a bit annoying. But for me; that's exactly what I need. I need a constant supply of invites. I never feel confident in myself to just show up and welcome myself to the party and jump right in. In other words; I'm not the personality of the person I need the most. I am most drawn to those who just decide they are going to be my friends and just include me, invite me places, and talk to me whenever they see me. Those extroverted personalities are the people I thrive with the most.

On the Other Hand:

I am however not a fan of those that are nosy and gossipy. Those that jump into your life and have to know every tiny juicy detail of your life on the very day that you meet them. Well; those busy body gossips are not on my fan list. You can usually pick out these people rather quickly. Are they there to genuinely get to know you, or are they just there for the latest gossip that they can spread around the neighborhood?