You've probably heard of the best selling, "The Five love Languages" by Gary D. Chapman. A very well written and informative book about building a relationship between the spouses. Well, he has done it again with a brilliant book written on the same principals but specifically designed to help parents understand the five love languages and how they relate to children. By understanding the love language of your child, you are able to better parent and raise them knowing they are loved and with the confidence they need to become well rounded members of society.
The Five Love Languages of Children helps parents understand the relationship between the parent and child and how the health of that relationship can help resolve behavior problems, discipline issues and develop a deeper and more loving relationship. It focuses on the five love languages of children such as:
- Physical Touch
- Words of Affirmation
- Quality Time
- Acts of Service
Each of these have a different use between a parent and child, and understanding which language your child speaks in will help your attempts of parenting have greater successes once you know which language your child speaks.
The book begins with a great foundation to help you understand why one would need to understand the five love languages of children. It helps you understand why sometimes your child may be filled with love, gratitude, and affection, where other times they are rebellious, full of tantrums and seem to want nothing to do with you as the parent.
The book teaches that everything depends on the loving relationship between the parent and child. When your child feels loved they do their best, and this book helps you understand how to know what methods of parenting will work best for your child, so they will know that they are loved.
The Five Love Languages of Children is well organized to help you have a solid foundation for understanding the principals before you jump into the meat of the book of understanding each love language. Each Love language is thoroughly explained. It lets you know how that love language may change through the years, how to show the love in that language, the need for that language of love, and it gives great examples of each part to help you fully understand the love language and how to put it into action.
I especially love that at the end of each love language it even gives a list of suggestions and ideas of how you can implement that love language into your life. You are never left to wonder with this book as it gives examples to help give you ideas for each step of implementing the new parenting style.
And all of this, is merely just the first half of the book! It then goes into detail on how to discover your child's love language. The Five Love Languages of Children also showcases how building the strong love relationship between parent and child helps with disciplining the child.
"The more a child feels loved, the easier it is to discipline that child. The reason is that a child must identify with her parents in order to accept their guidance without resentment, hostility, and obstructive, passive-aggressive behavior."
The book helps a parent learn how they can begin and continue to learn the love languages and implement them into their home. It even has a section specifically for single parent homes.
After reading The Five Love Languages of Children, I realized that yes, even though I love my children with all my heart, I don't think they are receiving my love in their hearts. I think they only understand a fraction of the love I show for them because they understand love in a different method than what I have been showing to them.
I now feel empowered to know how I can adjust my parenting styles to help my children better understand the love I feel for them, and I look forward to the chance of possibly eliminating the 7 year old's tantrums that arise simply from asking him to accomplish simple tasks in the house.
I have really learned a lot from this book and I do recommend it to any parent, grandparent, or parent to be. You will come to see relationships in a different light and understand more as to why children act in ways they do.
Have you read the Five Love Languages of Children?
What Language do you feel best suits you? And your Children?
*I received this product in exchange for my honest review through Mom Spark Media. All opinions expressed are my own.*