Whatever happened to happily ever after? As young girls we grow up with the fairy tale notion that life has it's trials but once you reach that personal accomplishment of finding the Right GUY, then you are set to have a happily ever after life with no trials. And all too often, once that honeymoon phase wears off, we are jolted into reality, and learn much to our heartache that happily ever after never existed.
It's not just with marriage or dating, but with life in general. We set goals in our lives, we reach to accomplish them, and we believe, "If I could just get this" or "Once I earn this…" and then everything will work out afterwards. And then once we reach that, although excited we also experience a sence of sadness…Now What?
Think about when you were growing up, did you dream about the day you would fall in love and get married, or did you dream about all the years of hardwork afterwards to keep that marriage a success? Did you dream about the day when you would earn that college education or achieve that promotion at work? Or did you dream about all the hard work that will now come afterwards because of those achievements?
It is good that we dream. It is good that we dream for noble things. Yet I find we dream of accomplishing a task and then viewing it as if that is the end goal, when infact is it truly just the beginning.
What are you working towards now?
Will that goal you dream of now, will that be your Happy Ever After, or will you still go on living afterwards?
Just a few things I've been pondering as I sit and think, "oh, everything will work out well just as soon as we have…" "oh it will all be just fine once the husband finishes his degree and has a job again." But Happy Ever Afters don't exist. There is no end of trials until we pass from this life into the next. Why not be happy in the moments we are living instead of wishing for future moments that will never come?
It's a great moment to take a self check and ponder, am I grateful for the moments I have now? Or are you forever going to be continually dreaming of what is to come that will never be? Sure the Husband will finish his engineering degree and he will get a job, but that is no guarantee that our marriage will be perfect after that point. What will make our marriage and family life wonderful is the time that we put into it now and continually put into it. The same goes for any goal we set for ourselves in life be it a college education, a promotion at work, or even just your own personal improvement.
We need to rid ourselves of dreaming of Happily Ever After Moments and start cherishing our moments as they are in the here and now, so that one day in the future we can look back and say "I was making my Happily Ever After each day, not waiting for it to find me."
What do you think about Happily Ever After?
Do you think it exists?